Did you know that we are build with natural intelligence?
If you have a cut in your arm, the body is capable to recover this with our immune system.
Step 1: it is important to acknowledge the cut in your arm. The pain that you feel will already give you an indication.
Step 2: a) adults/adolescents: take a look, to be able to decide if you need to arrange anything, like a bandage or a doctor. b) children: cry and/or go to their parents/caregivers for help.
Step 3: choose your best option.
Step 4: if you're in need for a drive to the doctor, you ask for support (i.e. spouse, mom or dad, brother, sister, co-worker, friend) or call 911 if you need immediately help.
Step 5: recover, it helps if your immune system is and stays strong.
Step 6: to support a strong immune system, it helps to eat healthy and be physical active.
Step 7: learn, it helps to reflect: how did this happen? and if you are able to reduce the risk in the future. Yes, prevent - No, let go. a) adults: reflect together with your child/adolescent.
If you experience an "emotional" cut, for instance your marriage isn't go well, it works the same to provide recovery.
Step 1: it is important to acknowledge the cut. The pain that you feel will already give you an indication.
Step 2: a) adults: take a look, to be able to decide if you need to arrange anything, like an open conversation together or a professional. b) children/adolescents: need appropriate information about the situation and access to their parent(s) to ask questions.
Step 3: choose your best option.
Step 4: if you're in need for emotional support, you ask for help (i.e. mom or dad, brother, sister, co-worker, friend etc) or a professional. Step 5: recover, it helps to acknowledge your feelings (with your heart).
Step 6: to support yourself, it helps to understand why you have those feelings (with your brain).
Step 7: learn, it helps to reflect: how did this happen? and if you are able to reduce the risk in the future. Yes, prevent - No, let go. a) adults: reflect together with your child/adolescent.
But recognizing an "emotional" cut is not always simple, because you can't see a physical wound and sometimes you can't even feel the pain that should give you an indication.
This means that you are not able to take the 1st step. Your only option that's left, keep on-going and unfortunately stress occurs without your consent.
If you have trouble to recognize your cut(s) in life, the reason might be fear and/or ignorance.
Fear might occur if you experienced an intrusive (traumatic) life event (i.e. maltreatment, divorce, death of a close relative, financial problems, unemployment, illness etc.). You try to push the feelings away and keep on-going with your life.
Ignorance might happen if you experience(d) a lonely or harsh childhood, which means that you often took care for yourself and maybe also for you parent(s) and/or brother(s) and sister(s). You are not used to recognize your own cut(s) and try to keep on-going with your life.
Both can keep you in a constant state of stress, even when you're trying to relax or sleep. This can make you feel low (depressed) or over-active (racing through life). It is hard to stay connected with the people you love and as a parent it is hard to stay connected with your child. If your child is in need for your help and support and you're regularly not able, loneliness occurs and different behavioural stress reactions, internal or external might exist. As a result the environment, like school or sports, puts 'unknowingly' to much pressure on the child.
If you experience stress, there is a way out and I can help you with that. Sign up for a free intake and we will take a look. Afterwards you can decide if you can handle this by yourself or would like a follow up.
- (re)connect with the people you love
- (re)connect with your child
